Help Yourself Transform From Who You Are To Who You Want To Be


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Humans are not meant to stop growing. In fact, no living thing on earth is meant to stop growing. We are all alive, reaching for the sky.

Do Not Mistake Achieving A Goal For Growth

Seeking an achievement usually implies an end. You win the trophy and then you're done. That's not what you want to aim for - because as soon as you say you're done, you stop growing, stretching yourself to be better.

Exploration is growth, and growth in this sense is not outward facing but inward. Whenever you find something about yourself you want to change, you need to look for a way to reinvent it.

This is what you should do to help yourself transform from who you are to who you want to be.

See Yourself Outside Yourself

According to author and philosopher Roman Krznaric, the 20th century was the age of introspection. Our culture told us the best way to discover who we are was to look inside ourselves. This hasn’t led to the good life, however, and he believes the 21st century needs to be the age of “outrospection,” where we discover ourselves by stepping outside of ourselves. When you start to view your life from outside yourself, you will discover a lot of the negatives. No need to get upset, or come down hard on yourself when you see something negative. Instead, just get to work. Transformation awaits you.

Find The Habit Associated With The Thing You Want To Change

You cannot change bad habits "overnight". We all focus too much on the thing we want to change instead of the habits that formed the thing in the first place. To truly reinvent aspects of yourself, you have to find the habit that created that trait in the first place - and then adjust the habit. Once you start doing this, transformation awaits you.

Be Consistent

Change is not something you do some days and then take a break. "Change is a shift in lifestyle" (I love this definition). To achieve this, it requires daily dedication, to the point where that new habit takes the place of the old ones and no longer requires conscious efforts.

Set Realistic Goals

You can't just wake up and say "I want to change my life right now". Well, it is a good thing that you acknowledge that your life need a change, but acknowledgement will not solve the problem immediately. Instead, set realistic goals that will help you become better.

Surround Yourself With People Who Will Tell You The Truth

If everyone around you is telling you things that will make you feel good every time, then you have a serious problem.
You need people who are going to challenge and question you. You need people who won't be afraid to tell you the truth. Tough feedback is essential for personal growth.

"Transformation from who you are to who you want to be is a process. Why not start today" - Akinpelumi Akinboye

This article was originally written by Nicolas Cole for Ladders.